A Romantic Marriage (4)by Pastor Faith Oyedepo, Week 4, September, 2008

A Romantic Marriage (4)

Dear Reader,

A romantic relationship is one of the benefits of marriage. God approves of romantic relations between married partners and views the married sexual relationship as beautiful. God’s Word says: Then God saw everything that He had made, and indeed it was very good (Genesis 1:31). This was shortly after God had created the first two human beings as male and female (verse 26). God pronounced sexuality, the male and female bodies and sexual relations as very good. In the account of creation, the only thing God said was not good was for the man to be alone. So, God created a woman to be with him (Genesis 2:18). This Week, I will be showing you again How to Please your Spouse.

Though the English word sex is not found in the Bible, the Bible is fraught with references on sexuality. Some references show that harmful consequences result from sex's misuse; but many others illustrate that God created sex to provide exquisite pleasure for married couples.

Notice these words of instruction to a young man: Drink water from your own well—share your love only with your wife. Why spill the water of your springs in public, having sex with just anyone? You should reserve it for yourselves. Don't share it with strangers. Let your wife be a fountain of blessing for you. Rejoice in the wife of your youth ... Let her breasts satisfy you always. May you always be captivated by her love (Proverbs 5:15-19, New Living Translation).

The Song of Solomon is a joyous account that uses poetic language to romantically describe the sexual interaction and the endearing words exchanged between devoted mates includes a tasteful description of the sex act itself.

God created sex and marriage. He created both for the purpose of love. The former should be reserved for and experienced only in the latter. When this happens, sex and love become the blessing that God intended them to be.

Ways to Rekindle the Fire of Love in Your Marriage

 Remember your first days together. If possible, re-enact that first date. Nothing seems to spark the flames as to remember your first fun times together.

 Court again. Do what you did to win the affections of your mate.

 Spend some time alone together. This is especially important, if you have children. It is essential for you as a couple to date and for your children to see you together.

 Show appreciation for the little things. An occasional card, flowers, meaningful gift or even just a simple "thank you" can mean so much.

 Say, "I love you" often. Reveal you care by your words and your actions.

 Always give your spouse a goodbye hug and kiss before leaving the house in the morning.

 At the end of the day, greet your spouse with a hug, kiss, and "How was your day?"

 Take time to really communicate and understand your spouse. Share your feelings with each other.

 Don't belittle your spouse, especially in front of others. Respect your spouse, even when you disagree.

 Wife, build up your husband's ego and honour and respect him.

 Husband, treat your wife like the queen you want her to be.

 Take walks together. Consider a romantic walk on

 Create a romantic atmosphere in your home

 Leave little notes of endearment around the house (on mirrors, inside a drawer or underwear, etc.) Include a brief, but loving, note inside your spouse's lunch.

To be able to please your mate, you need the grace of God. This comes by confessing your sins and accepting Jesus as your Saviour and Lord. If you are ready for this, please say this prayer: Dear Lord Jesus, I come to You today. I am a sinner. I cannot help myself. Forgive me my sins. Cleanse me with Your precious blood. Deliver me from sin and Satan, to serve the Living God. From today, I accept You are my Lord and Saviour. Thank You Jesus for saving me! Now, I know I am born again.

If you prayed this simple prayer, you are now a child of God. He loves you and will never leave you. Read your Bible daily, obey God's Word and seek Christian fellowship (John 14:21).

Call or write, and share your testimonies with me through:

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For more insight, these books authored by Pastor Faith Oyedepo are available at the Dominion Book Stores in all Living Faith Churches and other leading Christian book stores.

 Marriage Covenant

 Making Marriage Work,

 Building a Successful Family

 Single With A Difference

 Success in Marriage (Co-Authored with Bishop David Oyedepo).